Empathy is a muscle. First, measure it.
Most people believe they are good listeners. Most people are wrong in specific, fixable ways. This assessment does not grade you as a good or bad person. It shows you your empathy pattern: where your attention goes in conversations, what you do with other people's emotions, and where the skill breaks down. Because it is a skill, everything it measures can be trained.
Answer from the frame of the last four weeks, across all your relationships: partner, family, friends and colleagues. Honest answers make a useful report. Flattering answers make a useless one.