See your pattern, not just your problems.
Most couples argue about topics: money, family, time, chores. Underneath the topics runs a pattern, and the pattern is what actually decides how the relationship feels. This assessment maps yours across five dimensions: communication, conflict and repair, emotional connection, bonding, and appreciation.
Answer about your primary relationship, from the frame of the last four weeks. Answer for yourself, not for how you wish things were. A useful idea: both partners can take it separately and compare reports. The differences are often the most interesting conversation you will have this month.